The saying is based around traveling from village to village and contains amazing wisdom. In understanding this wisdom, we can apply the lessons to our personal, business, spiritual, and every other area of life.
How we go faster.
There are times in life when speed is of the essence. Delivering messages and news from village to village was once a job for the fastest runners. To make haste, they couldn’t waste time considering the needs of others. They had to choose the fastest, most direct route and go.
We have those times too. Emergency or one-time projects that fit our expertise are often best accomplished on our own. There isn’t time to bring anyone else up to speed and additional people involved could hinder our ability to get it done in time.
The trap of faster.
Realistically though, these times of solo speed are fewer and farther between than we might think. Especially as an entrepreneur or business owner, we get caught up in an attitude of “get it done now,” without giving enough thought to how far we will eventually go.
“It’s best if I do it myself” or “I’m the only one who can do it” are used way too often and are generally untrue. Each time we elect to go it alone and not involve someone else, we handicap our ability to go farther. Our longevity is cut for the sake of speed, but speed by itself won’t get the job done.
Why we go farther together.
Longer journeys require a group or team. As a raging type-A, my first thought is that more people will slow me down and make the way cumbersome. It’s a trap. For a trip of any length there are too many tasks to complete and skills needed for me to do it all effectively. By going it alone, I jeopardize everything and risk burning out.
The strength of the group comes from the combination of different perspectives, strengths, and skills. We share a common energy in a group that doesn’t exist on our own and our endurance is much greater. Safety, awareness, and longer-lasting performance are only a few of the benefits we get from forming a group and accepting the help they bring.
This concept applies to every area of life but is most obvious with business owners and entrepreneurs. We need to form a strong group that allows us to go the distance or we risk falling flat on our faces. Here are 3 tips to embracing groups and accepting help.
3 Tips for Embracing Groups and Accepting Help:
1) Get over yourself. One of the biggest pitfalls we negotiate as business owners is the idea that we are the only ones that can do what we do on a daily basis and that teaching someone else will slow us down. The truth is; there are countless things we do that someone else could do better, allowing us to focus on our brilliance. Your cause is much bigger than you. Slowing down for a moment to increase your longevity has a bigger payoff than grinding yourself to a nub trying to do it all.
2) Form a group that pushes you. Another common practice is to form groups of people that we view as lesser skilled than we are. As unfortunate as that sounds, the idea comes from a root of fear that people better than we are will somehow threaten us. To really grow our businesses, we have to grow ourselves. Find people who are as good at what they do, as you are at what you do. Create a culture of skill, growth, and mutual respect and watch your results soar!
3) Accept that the group will change. If your business is growing, things will change. Not necessarily because of personality conflicts or someone not pulling their weight, but because not everyone will move in the same direction forever. As you grow as the business owner, you’ll find your needs changing and some of the people in your group will not fit the need any more. It is also possible that your company may cease to meet the need of a group member. Focus on where you go from that point and don’t waste unnecessary energy forcing a group together when a slight change may be all that’s needed.
Going it alone may seem daring and bold, but it frequently is the worst thing we can do. Throughout my coaching and consulting career I’ve led newbie entrepreneurs and seasoned business owners to the benefits of groups. Some were peer groups where ideas, accountability, and encouragement flowed. You realize that you’re not alone and the big picture comes into focus.
Others involved building or rebuilding the support group around them. Some of the most satisfying work you can ever do is adding productive hours to your business without adding any hours to your personal schedule. This kind of breakthrough comes with mindset work and strategic focus.
Regardless of the kind of team you need, don’t fall into the trap of thinking you are best to go alone. Embrace the benefit of a well constructed team and make sure you can go the distance.
~ PJ McClure
PJ McClure helps aspiring entrepreneurs to multi-million dollar business owners stop making excuses for their lives and start living them. He is an award-winning speaker and the best-selling author of Flip the SWITCH: How to Turn On and Turn Up Your Mindset .
Over the past several weeks I have been involved in various workshops, have had conversations with mentors and guides, and have heard other people share with me their struggles- all around saying “no”… around putting the Self first. I am not sure why it is but human beings, especially caregivers, tend to do for others but not for themselves. So while I am a registered nurse and share from my own experiences as such, these words can really apply to anyone in a caregiver role- a parent, an adult taking care of elderly parents, a friend, a teacher, a sibling, etc. There are so many instances where human beings are constantly putting others first and as a result of this- putting their own care, their own health, last.
So I know that we, as nurses, continually give so much of ourselves. While being compassionate, nurturing, and caring, which are parts of our professional and personal roles; we shouldn’t let this “giving nature” put our own self-care in jeopardy. We must allow ourselves to rest on the other side of the giving relationship; being open to receive. We have welcome support and help along the way.
Why is this important? Well, what’s the cost to our well-being if we are unable to easily receive? Our health is at risk. If we always give of ourselves we will burn out fast. If we are unable to fill own self-care tank we run on empty.
In my previous role as an inpatient psychiatric nurse, I was so fixated on helping everyone on my unit. I used up all of my energy giving to others that I almost passed out during work! If we are constantly taking care of others, who is taking care of us? If we are rushing all day from one task to another, helping people around us, we won’t have enough time for ourselves.
We might be up late getting projects done for others so our sleep or relaxation time suffers. We could wind up with physical health concerns such as stress headaches, digestive issues, chronic fatigue, and even pain. We have to care for our own bodies, minds, and spirits and one way we can do so is through being more receptive to support from other people.
Here are some easy strategies I suggest to get started:
- Shift Your Mindset: In order to be able to receive you have to change the way you think of yourself. We often put loved ones, friends, or work first leaving little room for ourselves. Start to see yourself as number one. If you begin to think of yourself as your first priority you will start to act that way. Our thoughts become our actions. So check in with yourself. Think about where you rank on your priority list. Do you come first? Or do you always put yourself last?
- Practice with Little Things First: Observe this scenario: “Sally, I really like your hair!” “Oh gee, it’s a mess Sue! I was running late and didn’t get to blow dry it today!!” Sue: “Well, it really looks good today; I like it that way.” Sally: “Well, you must need glasses!” Are you like Sally in this vignette; finding it hard to take compliments? This is where you can start with a major change. Accept the compliments people offer. Just say “Thank you” and feel good about yourself. Start by receiving the nice things people say. Believe me, once you start with something small, like taking a compliment that is offered, you will be more readily able to accept a helping hand when it is extended.
- Check Your Pride at The Door: We are not superwomen or supermen! We are not on this planet alone. No one told us we must do it all by ourselves. If this was the case, why are there over 6.8 Billion people on this earth? We are all individual beings with unique qualities. We are all here to help each other. Yes, you can help others. Yes, it is great to be a giving and caring person. But this is not to be done at the expense of your own health and well-being. Accept the help offered to you and realize you are not a Cartoon Character Hero like Mighty Duck!
- Practice Being Realistic: Many times when I was working on the inpatient unit I felt that I had to do it all. I could not leave the shift until every “T” was crossed and every “I” was dotted. Let me share something simple with you: nursing is a 24/7 job. There will always be the next shift. Realize you cannot get it all done EVERY single time. Allow others to help you out and receive the teamwork’s hand. You share your help and giving nature all of the time; why not allow others to share theirs with you?
- Engage In A Healing Practice: You may come across blocks within your own psyche relating to receiving. If you need support there are available resources everywhere. Treat yourself to a massage. Take a Spa day. Attend a sound healing concert. Get a Reiki treatment. Find a way to heal and welcome support from others. Slow down and create space for receptivity.
About the Author:
Liz Scala writes about Health and Wellness monthly for AMSDaily.
You can visit her blog at Living Sublime Wellness to read more on these topics.
Now this is gonna be fun and uplifting…. I loved doing research for this blog. I got so pumped up, I didn’t wanna finish writing… then I thought about all of you who might get just as pumped up reading it… so here I am.
This topic is near and dear to my heart. So few people really live life to the fullest. We get stuck in our ways and routines and just kinda coast through life, then something major happens to you or someone you love, and you start to think, “Is this all there is for me?” “Is this all I’m capable of?” Why wait for that moment to wake up? Live your life awake. Live your life to the fullest. It’s the only way! Don’t just take my word for it. Here are some great inspirational quotes about living life to the fullest! Enjoy and soak them in!!
Top 23 Quotes - Living Your Life to the Fullest:
1. “Enjoy the little things in life, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”
~ Robert Breault
2. “All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
3. “Life is a game, play it; Life is a challenge, Meet it; Life is an opportunity, Capture it.”
4. “If you obey all the rules, you’ll miss all the fun.”
~ Katharine Hepburn
5. “The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”
~ Louis E. Boone
6. “There’ll be two dates on your tombstone and all your friends will read ‘em but all that’s gonna matter is that little dash between ‘em.”
~ Kevin Welch
7. “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did.”
~ Mark Twain
8. “Cherish your yesterdays, dream your tomorrows and live your todays.”
9. “Quit hanging on to the handrails . . . Let go. Surrender. Go for the ride of your life. Do it every day.”
~ Melody Beattie
10. “Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid. In the past, whenever I had fallen short in almost any undertaking, it was seldom because I had tried and failed. It was because I had let fear of failure stop me from trying at all.”
~ Arthur Gordon
11. “One way to get the most out of life is to look upon it as an adventure.”
~ William Feather
12. “Every day, it’s important to ask and answer these questions: “What’s good in my life?” and “What needs to be done?”
~ Nathaniel Branden
13. “A life without cause is a life without effect.”
14. “There is only one success, to be able to spend your life in your own way.”
~ Christopher Morley
15. “Don’t wait. Make memories today. Celebrate your life!”
16. “Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.”
~ Les Brown
17. “Life is a great big canvas, and you should throw all the paint on it you can.”
~ Danny Kaye
18. “Don’t be afraid your life will end; be afraid that it will never begin.”
~ Grace Hansen
19. “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”
~ Joe Lewis
20. “Somebody should tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying. Then we might live life to the limit, every minute of every day. Do it! I say. Whatever you want to do, do it now! There are only so many tomorrows.”
~ Pope Paul VI
21. “I don’t wait for the calendar to figure out when I should live life.”
~ Gene Simmons
22. “The purpose of life, after all, is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
23. “It is not the years in your life but the life in your years that counts.”
~ Adlai Stevenson
Well, there you have it! Now go take on the world, go skinny dipping, surf, sky dive, or skip work and play hookie with you kids…. go live life to the fullest! What are you gonna do? Leave me a comment below.
~ Matt Morris